I was told a long time ago that I sound like a feminist.
I replied: it all comes from the Deen.
I truly believe Muslim women don’t really know how good they have it.
I got a reply to my last email how women have so much work to do and are so overwhelmed.
Trust me sisters, I understand. With four kids…I get the amount of work women have on their plate
But what I know – from my readings in marital law across the 4 madhhabs plus my extensive hadith readings – our marriages today look VERY different than they did in the past.
I have SO much to say on this.
I know how much work women are expected to do and I KNOW this is not from Islamic tradition; it’s more Western than we understand.
Our REAL tradition – hadiths from our greatest exemplars: from the Prophetic household itself – we see how much they worked and how much time they had to themselves and their own endeavors….
How much the Prophet ﷺ provided for his wives and what were they busy with?
Who worked harder? More? What was expected of them?
These aren’t issues that are limited to the Prophetic household – these are timeless and forever Sunnahs that we MUST study and strive to implement – men and women together.
Ironically, there are hadith that women find troubling but in those very hadith is their salvation!
Salvation from slave-like work and being taken for granted and having endless to-do lists and overwhelming mental loads…salvation from being overstretched and underappreciated.
We need a reset in our homes.
We need a reset to real tradition – not one that is post-colonial or post-caliphate: but one that is rooted in the Sunnah and Caliphate eras.
You will be surprised.
Very pleasantly — I guarantee it! 🙂
These are learnt through sifting through books of fiqh, hadith, and history.
I’m also covering these in my Islamic Marriage course for your convenience 🙂
